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Evolved Coaching with Navy Seal Mark Divine PhD - 532

Tue, 24 Jun 2025

What if today were your last day on Earth? Jayson is joined by author and retired Navy SEAL Commander Mark Divine for his 3rd time on the show to discuss finding your purpose on this planet, meditation vs. psychedelics, developing mental and physical toughness, and much more. Don’t miss Mark’s exhortation for coaches at the end.

Mark Divine is a retired Navy SEAL, bestselling author, and transformative thought leader, inspiring compassion, resilience, and fortitude. His distinguished military career spanned two decades with tours in Iraq, the Middle East, and the Korean Peninsula, culminating in his retirement in as a Commander. Beyond the battlefield, Mark founded SEALFIT, where he blends Navy SEAL training with innovative mental toughness and mindfulness techniques. Through the Unbeatable Mind program he has trained thousands in his "Kokoro" whole mind system, and through the Mark Divine Courage Foundation, he aids veterans seeking post-traumatic growth. Mark holds a PhD in Global Leadership from Pepperdine University and resides in Encinitas, California, with his wife, Sandy, and Husky Mahina.

Timestamps:

  • 5:15 - Horizontal vs. vertical development
  • 13:04 - The importance of training your body
  • 19:06 - You are not your thoughts
  • 24:08 - Vertical development takes time
  • 29:24 - What are you on this planet for?
  • 37:39 - Don’t feed the fear wolf
  • 41:05 - Meditation vs psychedelics
  • 45:33 - What if today is your last day?
  • 48:48 - Why coaches need to be doing the work
  • 56:53 - AI in coaching

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Signs It’s Time to Fire Your Therapist or Coach - Jayson Gaddis - 531

Tue, 17 Jun 2025

Is it time to fire your coach or therapist? Jayson breaks it down. Do the sessions you attend feel more like coffee dates? Is your trauma going unaddressed? Have you been seeing a practitioner for years without making real progress? If you're struggling to see results, you won’t want to miss this episode.

Timestamps:

  • 5:26 - Your story isn’t being challenged
  • 6:35 - Sessions feel like a coffee date
  • 7:36 - Therapy feels like a friendship
  • 8:56 - Trauma isn’t being addressed
  • 11:31 - No change is happening
  • 13:13 - Uncritically siding with your story
  • 15:20 - The asks are too challenging
  • 17:26 - You’re not doing your homework
  • 21:19 - Final thoughts


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Coaching Reframes and Context with Master Coach John O’Connor

Tue, 10 Jun 2025

What does it mean to follow your deepest calling? How do you get clear on what actually matters and act on it today? Jayson sits down with executive coach John O’Connor to explore what it takes to create real transformation.

They get into symbolic sovereignty, creating a clear vision, and how deep callings can emerge from deep traumas. Jayson shares what it means to earn your black belt in relationships, they discuss why music is a powerful metaphor for life, and the one skill every facilitator needs. They also talk about entanglement, and having a shared vision with your partner. Stick around for grounded insights on leadership, connection, and showing up fully to the work only you can do.
John O’Connor is an executive coach and facilitator living in Boulder, Colorado. For more than a decade, John has coached the top CEOs and leaders in hedge funds, startups, and Fortune 500 companies. John embodies a masterful level of skill to create radical transformation. His coaching path emerged out of 17 years as a massage therapist, after working through tens of thousands of bodies, he developed a deep connection and curiosity to the unconscious mind, learning how to facilitate behavioral, emotional and mental change at the deepest level. John was a co-lead facilitator at the first two Open Source Retreats that helped lay the foundation for the EVRYMAN movement. He is also a certified NLP and hypnosis trainer, a certified master coach, creator of The Access Method, and author of the upcoming book From Ordinary to Extraordinary.

Timestamps:

  • 1:23 - What is your deepest calling?
  • 3:49 - Stepping out of time
  • 8:54 - Creating a clear vision
  • 10:43 - What are the three most important things you need to do today?
  • 13:19 - Symbolic sovereignty
  • 32:24 - How to get your black belt in relationships
  • 37:36 - Music as a metaphor for relationships
  • 45:48 - Having a shared vision
  • 52:42 - Deep callings can emerge from deep traumas
  • 58:56 - Dealing with entanglement
  • 1:04:00 - An important skill for facilitators and coaches

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The Core Inner Conflict

Tue, 03 Jun 2025

Jayson breaks down the problems with one common strategy—people-pleasing and how it relates to the core inner conflict. What are the childhood roots of people-pleasing? Why do people-pleasers become resentful? Why do integrated individuals make better coaches and therapists? Tune in to this insightful episode to learn how to stop betraying yourself in the context of your relationship.

Timestamps:

  • 1:37 - Client example
  • 5:43 - The childhood roots of people-pleasing
  • 12:04 - Betraying yourself to fit in
  • 14:46 - Why people-pleasers become resentful
  • 18:23 - Why integrated people make better coaches and therapists


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50 Years As A Therapist- Sage Advice for All Coaches & Therapists - Duane Mullner - 528

Tue, 27 May 2025

Jayson sits down with Duane Mullner to talk about the role of the therapist or coach. Why is the here and now so important? Can clients help their coaches and therapists? How should you prepare for a session? What should you do with a client who isn’t making progress? How can you help clients who are stuck in victimhood? Don’t miss this chance to hear Duane Mullner share the wisdom he has accumulated over his long career.

Timestamps:

  • 6:44 - What is the role of the therapist/coach
  • 15:30 - What’s going on between therapist and client?
  • 20:31 - Why is the here and now so important?
  • 27:39 - Don’t make resistance wrong
  • 34:35 - How clients help coaches and therapists
  • 41:46 - How to prepare for a session
  • 44:51 - Making progress with clients
  • 54:18 - How to help people who are in their victimhood
  • 1:07:00 - Should you trust clients to treat you about their problems?


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