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S23E2: How To Be More Secure In Dating and Relationships w/ Dr. Amir Levine (Author of Attached)

Tue, 08 Sep 2026

This isn't just another episode about attachment theory. We have THE man, the myth, the legend Dr. Amir Levine, author of the bestselling book Attached, here with us talking about his latest book Secure and how anyone can learn to build more secure connections – even if you are inherently more anxious or avoidant. We discuss why attachment theory has become such a huge part of dating culture, what it means to be CARRP (and how to recognize these qualities in a partner) and what to do when you’re dating someone who is showing up more anxious or avoidant so instead you can try to build something more secure with them (or know when it's time to walk away). Enjoy!

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S23E1: 5 Signs You Probably Won't End Up Alone (Even If You Are Super Single Right Now)

Tue, 01 Sep 2026

Are you truly going to end up alone or is fear making you believe a story that isn’t true? We're back for Season 23 to unpack one of the biggest anxieties in dating: the fear that love might never happen. We discuss why feeling “behind” is often more about perception than reality, the biggest indicator that shows someone is not ready and the signs that you’re actually on the right path toward finding love. But most importantly if you are on this journey, we're here to give you hope it's absolutely still possible – no matter your age, relationship experience, etc. Enjoy!

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Quickie w/ Julie: Proof You Aren't Bad At Relationships (Even If You've Been Single A Long Time)

Fri, 28 Aug 2026

We often judge how "good" we are at relationships based on our dating and relationship history, but what if it's the least complete picture? In this episode, Julie explores why romantic relationships often become intertwined with our identity, causing breakups, rejection, or being single to feel like proof that we're "bad at relationships." She helps you look deeper at your connection portfolio and the other evidence of your capacity for healthy relationships. If dating has made you question your worth, this episode will help you separate your romantic outcomes from your ability to create deep, lasting connection. Enjoy!

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Has Therapy Speak Gone Too Far in Dating?: How Therapy Culture Helps Vs. Gets in the Way of Forming Relationships

Tue, 25 Aug 2026

What happens when the tools meant to help us heal start getting in the way of how we connect? We're exploring the rise of therapy culture and how “therapy speak” is changing the way we approach dating, conflict, and relationships. We discuss why having the right words doesn’t always mean we’re doing the deeper work, how psychological labels can sometimes become a way to avoid accountability, and why not every uncomfortable moment is a sign of a toxic dynamic. We also unpack how to balance self-awareness with openness, curiosity, and the ability to navigate the imperfect moments that make relationships real. Enjoy!

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Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick, and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts, The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview, available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

Quickie w/ Yue: Does A Couple Need To Go Through Hardship To Feel Connected?

Fri, 21 Aug 2026

Does going through hard times together make a relationship stronger—or is that just the story we've been told? In this episode, Yue explores whether deep connection is built through shared struggle or if love can grow just as profoundly without adversity. She reflects on how survival, sacrifice, and teamwork can forge incredible closeness, but can also create resentment, distance, and even break people apart. Through examples like illness, career setbacks, and major life transitions, she unpacks when supporting a partner through hardship strengthens a relationship, and when it's okay to recognize that love alone isn't enough. If you've ever wondered whether lasting intimacy requires surviving difficult seasons together, this episode will challenge the way you think about what truly builds a deep and enduring partnership. Enjoy!

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